Here’s how to ensure height of trust by setting and maintaining a sexual boundary.  No matter how long you have known your partner, it’s a great practice to speak your sexual intended end point. 

For example, you may chat as you are beginning to get flirty or physically close or earlier in the day at a meal.  Think of this practice as a way to set up safe limits and STICK TO THEM.  THIS IS A JIMDANDY combo for creating ultimate trust for your beloved.

Start by saying to your beloved, “I’d like to share with you my fantasy for tonight’s lovemaking.  How about if we meet from 8 – 9 pm in our comfy bed and let our hands do the talking.  We can begin kissing, touch each other, then have orgasmic touch.  That’s it! We end there.  [OPTIONAL:  NO penetration]”.

Then follow through to a T and stop short of penetration even if she says go ahead.  Keep your word for this segment.  You can always plan another segment with a new agreement (smile).

Recall my 5 Stages of Intimacy are:

1. Conversation - to connect with minds 1st, then move downward

2. Rituals – create sensual connection before touch

3. Touch – get fully into your bodies and feel goodness

4.Sexual Touch – to build pleasure and experience orgasm

My 5th stage is penetration.