You may be faced with intimacy that moves extremely slowly and you KNOW it. If this is the case, share your thoughts with her but don’t convince or beg. Say things like “it’s time we had sex and I want to show you the way”. At any point she protests, simply slow and look her in the eyes. Hold her hands or her body close to you with soft words like, “I’m here for you and want you to share with me whatever is going through your mind.” Be patient. Mix waiting and wanting with encouraging tone.
Understand that women have had dismissive men, body invaders and encroachments in their background.
The good news is the tremendous power you have to calm, neutralize and uplevel these not good experiences. I support consensual sex that has a strong emotional base for both of you. The main INFLUENCE she will feel is your intention. Make it your intention that she feel safe, understood and cherished. Please also verbalize that her sexiness is not only natural but adds to her goodness as a goddess you relish. You may question the necessity of saying positive sexual messages to her. Women need affirming words that confirm sex positivity. Phrases that acknowledge a woman is whole and complete with sexual needs amidst all the other ones will feed and fuel a healthy outlook.
It’s amazing the number of negative messages that exist regarding sex for women. There is also a lack of support for women to be open and free to understand her own sexual physiology. The collective belief system fills women’s heads with “should/should nots”. You have a lot of potential to provide sex positive experiences and words that will transform previous unkind close encounters. Women’s sexual sovereignty is righted when you validate her to be who she is in her entirety.
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Best Things Are Coming To You in 2021, much love from Nancy and her crew