Your intimacy is always growing, n’est pas?  You have come to a new place in the 21st Century beyond Freudian directed sexuality.  One of the biggest challenges you get to overturn is the mis-taken notion of restricted location of orgasm.  Freud believed penis inside the vagina was “it”. 

We now know that orgasm can happen with or without penetration. You are free of someone else defining what’s the best body spot for your partner’s ultimate pleasure release.  How fun is that?!  Missing this point will keep sex a mere physical act.  Why not have deeply connected, ecstatic pleasure that lasts?  Continuing to learn about your partner’s “happy spots” makes sex worthwhile for both of your bodies.