Self-pleasure is not taught to women as it is to men.  Boys watch porn and sometimes learn about masturbation from friends sexual pursuits whether imaginary or real. There is an old myth that married individuals don’t partake of self-stimulation.  This is false because sexual needs vary between each individual.  

Do give yourself and your partner permission to enjoy stimulating your own bodies. This can be done completely alone, in solo, or with your partner.  It can be quite erotic to masturbate just for your lover’s enjoyment watching you.